I’m no expert, I’m just someone who’s been through rough shit. And I don’t know what your situation is, but here are some things that helped me and can help anyone.
- Identify The Problem. You can’t solve a problem if you don’t know what you’re solving. Figure out what’s up, then go after it. If you’re lonely, if you have depression or anxiety, if your closeted and can’t accept yourself, if you’re going through a break up. Any problem you can have can be solved. A lot of times, it just takes time and the only thing you can do is just wait it out. But if you’re struggling with something real, then go talk to someone. Whether it’s a professional or a friend or a stranger on the internet. Asking for help isn’t weak, and you can’t expect someone to notice what’s wrong and swoop in to save you. You gotta save yourself.
- Look Good, Feel Good. Just because your appearance is the shallow part of you, doesn’t mean it’s not there. Take care of yourself. Shower more, shave, wear clothes you like, get a new haircut, work out. Do whatever to yourself that makes you feel like you look good. For me, going to the gym is a huge factor in how I’m feeling. Not only because I feel like I look better, but also because I feel like I’m accomplishing something healthy. I take an hour out of my day to go and I focus on nothing but my workout. That’s my thing, it may not be everyone’s but exercise and health are super important to how you feel anyway. But if the gym really isn’t your thing, then wear clothes you like, wear make up, or idk do something that takes just enough effort to make you feel like you’ve worked on yourself and if you can look at the mirror and smile at yourself, then your day will be that much better.
- Accept Love and Let Go of Hate. Look, I am really bad at this, but I think it’s something anyone can and should do. Accept the people that love you in the way they love you and cherish those people. And cherish the things that you love. Even if it’s just a book or a game or a show that makes you happy. Hold on to that. And focus on what you like about it. And let go of hate. This part is really hard, and it’s one of those things that just doesn’t happen immediately. Not everyone deserves forgiveness but that doesn’t mean you need to hold all that bitterness forever. Drop those bags. And cut out people in your life that are toxic. Even if it’s temporary. You can’t heal if you’re still exposing yourself to what’s hurting you. And even small things, like not thinking about or ranting about stuff you think is terrible, is a big thing.
- Attitude. You’ve got to want it. It’s really as lame and simple as that. Commit to yourself and to fixing whatever plagues you. Even if it’s just in small ways. Life gets better. And it gets bad. But it’s up to you to decide if it gets worse. Find your rock bottom and never go back there. Activate change in your life by actually being active.
I hope this helped.